Mind YOUR Manners
Weddings are joyous occasions, often filled with tradition, celebration and a touch of formality. However, they can also be rife with potential etiquette pitfalls. Whether you’re a guest, a member of the bridal party or even the couple tying the knot, there are some common missteps that can detract from the day’s perfection. Let’s explore some of the most frequent etiquette blunders and how to avoid them.
IGNORING RSVP DEADLINES
Failing to RSVP on time creates unnecessary stress for the couple and their families. Southern weddings are meticulously planned, often down to the exact number of monogrammed napkins. A late or missing RSVP can throw off seating arrangements and catering counts. Not to mention, it is rude.
OVERSTEPPING BOUNDARIES WITH PLUS ONES
If your invitation doesn’t explicitly say “and guest,” don’t assume you can bring one. Southern weddings often have tight guest lists, and bringing an uninvited plus-one can create logistical headaches.
MISMANAGING KIDS
While children can add a touch of charm to any wedding, they can also be unpredictable. If your children are invited, make sure they’re well-behaved and supervised. If they’re not, respect the couple’s wishes and arrange for childcare.
IGNORING THE DRESS CODE
In the South, wedding attire is often steeped in tradition. Whether it’s a formal evening affair or a casual garden party, the dress code on the invitation isn’t a suggestion—it’s a requirement. Showing up underdressed or, worse, in white (unless specifically instructed) is a surefire way to draw disapproving glances. When in doubt, err on the side of formality.
ARRIVING LATE
Punctuality isn’t just polite; it’s essential. Weddings often begin with precision, and arriving after the bride’s grand entrance can be seen as disrespectful. Aim to arrive at least fifteen minutes early, and if you’re running behind, wait discreetly until an appropriate pause to enter.
SKIPPING THE RECIEVING LINE
In the South, graciousness is key and skipping the receiving line is seen as a lack of appreciation for the couple’s effort. Take the time to greet, congratulate and thank the couple and their families. It’s a small gesture that goes a long way.
In the South, graciousness is key and skipping the receiving line is seen as a lack of appreciation for the couple’s effort. Take the time to greet, congratulate and thank the couple and their families. It’s a small gesture that goes a long way.
FORGETTING TO MINGLE
Southern weddings are as much about the guests as they are about the couple. Don’t just stick to your table or friend group; take the opportunity to meet new people. A warm and engaging guest is always remembered fondly.
Southern weddings are as much about the guests as they are about the couple. Don’t just stick to your table or friend group; take the opportunity to meet new people. A warm and engaging guest is always remembered fondly.
OVERINDULGING AT THE BARSouthern hospitality often means a well-stocked bar, but it’s important to enjoy responsibly. Overindulgence can lead to embarrassing behavior, which not only reflects poorly on you but can also disrupt the event. Remember, this day isn’t about you—it’s about celebrating the couple.
BEING A SOCIAL MEDIA REPORTER: \While snapping a few photos is often encouraged, live-tweeting or posting unflattering angles of the bride before the official photographer has shared their work is a major no-no. Always check for a social media policy or hashtag before posting.
At the heart of Southern weddings is a celebration of love, family and tradition. By keeping these etiquette tips in mind, you can ensure you’re contributing to the joy and not detracting from it. Remember, good manners never go out of style, especially below the Mason-Dixon line.
